The more I think about and practice my 2021 mantra of “I let it all be easy.” (or some variation of that) I’m seeing all kinds of ways we tend to make it harder than it needs to be. Believe me, I used to be the queen of making it harder than it needs to be as illustrated by the story below.
When we lived in the D.C. area a few years ago, we were driving home from an event and hit a ton of traffic (as you do when you live in that area). My GPS happily calculated an alternate route for me to get home, but it was going to take me on some back roads that I was unfamiliar with. I don’t know what I was thinking, but instead of taking the shortcut into the unknown, I opted to stay the course and it took me an additional 45 minutes to get home.
—> I opted for the harder, yet familiar path instead of opting for easy & unknown. <—
Sound familiar?
The truth is, we do this to ourselves all the time. While in the GPS situation you can very clearly see how a short cut around traffic is easier and probably the smarter option, we don’t always get to see that in our day-to-day lives. We have to learn to trust ourselves and the process, which is where mindset/energy practices really come into play.
And while I could probably share with you 10 ways we are getting in our own way and making it harder than it has to be, today I’ll just start with three I’ve seen recently.
1. Saying yes, when everything in you says no. When you say yes to the job, date, opportunity or anything else for that matter, when your heart is saying no, you are going against your intuitive nature. You are essentially muting the voice within that is there to guide you to the path of least resistance to everything you desire. Not to mention you are shrinking your light, limiting your possibilities, and likely making the journey a lot harder and longer than it needs to be.
If you are like me, maybe you say yes when you really mean no because it’s what you know and it’s comfortable. Maybe it’s because you’re so used to doing what other people think you should do, that you’ve lost trust in your own inner voice. If you’re like many people you likely haven’t been taught to listen to yourself, your body or your inner guide. Well that changes starting now.
Here’s how: This is one of the things I encourage every one of my clients to learn to do because it is a game-changer for everything they desire. It starts by tuning into yourself more often. Drop out of your mind-space for a bit and into your body. What are you feeling? What’s your body wanting/needing in this moment? Get quiet and check in daily and eventually you will be able to do this multiple times a day. When the time comes to make a decision you can then drop into that space again and feel your way forward. I use this practice is virtually everything in my life and it is pretty amazing what happens when you do. Give it a try!
2. Believing it gets to work for others, but not you. When you believe that the money, love, career, success and happiness gets to work out for other people, but not you…you make it so. You essentially put yourself and your life into a prison where you are shackled to this false narrative that is only true because you believe it. Not only do you believe it, but you practice it every time you see someone else doing that thing you want to do. “Of course it works for them…but it doesn’t get to work for me.” That is like watching someone walk through a doorway as you try and walk through the wall. If you just adjust your body (aka your focus and mind) then you too would walk through that door.
Here’s the truth (if you choose to believe it). When you see someone doing something that you also want to do…it means that YOU can create it too and are well on your way. But, when you tell the tale that it’s just a reminder that you don’t get to have it…then you don’t. You stay stuck. When you look at it that way, isn’t it worth taking a few moments to tell a different story? Let’s do that now.
Here’s how: First, decide that everything is working out for you and what you want you can also have. Got it? Now practice that. Practice it in writing about it in your journal, reading stories about it and basically immersing yourself in the belief that you can be, have and do whatever you choose. Get support, do the work and you will literally change your mind around what gets to be true for you. Then celebrate all the things that resemble what you desire and see it as a sign that you’re on the right path. It not only gets to work out for you…it already is!
3. Let the past predict what is possible for you. The past doesn’t matter unless you wish to repeat it. Yes, you can learn from it, explore what unfolded and make a change for the future, but it is not a predictor of your future…unless of course you believe it is. Let’s also add in here that even if you’ve never done it before (lost the weight, learned the skill, bought the house, written a book etc.) doesn’t mean you can’t…it means you haven’t yet.
When we assume that our past predicts our future…nothing changes. We get stuck in the same story and same old energy of where we’ve been. It would be like going on a road trip but never leaving your driveway because you believe this is where you’ve always been. The past is old news and so is the present. It’s time to create anew. It’s time to tap into a new energy, new possibilities and new mindset for what you are creating. Ready?
Here’s how: Begin by making peace with the past. Recently this has been a bit theme in my client work as we dive into the pieces of the past still influencing the present. If you didn’t know, we go where we need to go and often that includes processing & healing bits of trauma and old stories that need to be released. Forgiveness is helpful as is some inner child work if that resonates for you. As you release and make peace with the past, you can simultaneously paint a new picture of what you are choosing and creating in the present. This is indeed a process and it can be deep work, but it is how true change and transformation happens and it’s 100% worth it. Here’s to us all getting out of our own way and allowing it to be easier than it’s ever been before! Are you with me?
P.S. Next week, I am opening my calendar for those of you who are interested in booking a free consultation to see if we are a good fit to work together. If you feel it, you know so jump onto the calendar and let’s chat. Yes…I’m speaking to YOU. 😉
