Fun Fact: Coaches have blocks too.
The truth is, I wouldn’t be the coach I am today if I didn’t have my own challenges. In fact, it’s by working through my own stuff that allows me to share new tips, tools and strategies to help you get through yours.
Usually, I feel called to share things with you after I’ve already made the shift, but I’ve been inspired to do something a little different.
Today, I felt called to share with you my most recent big block (aka gremlin) I’m working through at the moment and what I am doing to shift it.
First, let me say that “block” may not be the best word for these little gremlins because I don’t really believe we are “blocked” in the way that so may of us often feel. The idea of a “block” seems so impossible to overcome. Instead, I try to think of them more as little nagging beliefs that have the tendency to get in the way of the good stuff coming into my life and my most recent gremlin has been a doozy.
The Gremlin: “I’m behind.”
Since we arrived in Hawaii, I’ve been keenly aware of how “time” feels different here. There is a concept called “island time” that feels a bit more relaxed, free flowing and for this most recent east coast girl…a bit slow. It often makes me feel so behind the rest of the world. I tend to go to bed later, wake up later and without a daily routine, I often find myself floating through thee day and it’s been really hard on my mind.
And let me tell you, the gremlin has a lot to say about it all too.
She’s saying things like…
“You’re running a business for crying out loud, it’s time to get back on track!”
“There’s no time for all this “rest” and “relaxation”, this isn’t vacation!”
“This isn’t going to work for that next-level life you said you were creating.”
“You really should be doing more.”
The truth is, I’m a do-er who thrives with a routine and right now I have none of that. But the real issue here isn’t the lack of routine or the lack of “doing”. The real issue is a tangled knot of beliefs that say… I can’t succeed without long hours and lots of (hard) work or I’m just not good enough if I’m not “doing”.
If I go even deeper here, the real issue is that I’ve been playing into the idea of “conditional” success.
This basically means that I am only allowing myself to succeed and go to the next-level when life is running smoothly, I’m happy and in flow in every sense of the word.
But, what about every other time in my life?
What about all the chaos and transition that happens when we move or my wife deploys or when my son is sick or jeez…when I’m feeling a little grumpy? What about when I am feeling, I don’t know…human?
Apparently for me it means that during those times, I fall (or just feel) “behind” in some way. Maybe my energy or creativity slows down or I sabotage my own efforts in order to prove the belief that I only get to succeed when the conditions are right.
The worst part of it all is in some way I’ve come to expect it.
You see, beliefs are powerful things. They grow roots that run deep and over the years they collect a ton of “evidence” to prove their validity. The roots and evidence all create an ongoing cycle that, until interrupted, affect and create our daily lives.
I’ve been through enough years of moving, deployments, and general life chaos to see how this cycle has played out in my life and business and yet, I’ve just become aware of it on a much deeper level.
So, how am I shifting this?
The simple answer is choosing a new story for myself.
Instead of believing that I can’t succeed unless all the conditions are just right, I’m practicing the story that says, I get to succeed no matter what is going on around me. No matter what season of life I am in. No matter how I feel, where I live, or what mood I’m in…success (and joy, love, peace and magic) are all just the norm for me.
I’m feeling into how that would look and feel, especially as I am in a current “in-between” space in life right now and I’m practicing it intentionally.
More specifically I am…
–> Doubling down on my mindset/journaling work around this very topic and affirming that of course, my creativity/business/income is on fire in the best way possible even when I’m living in a hotel and home-schooling my son in a new place…because that is just how it works for me.
–>I’m actively deciding for this to be true for me AND I’m looking for the evidence to support that idea. New client inquiry? (Evidence!) Rainbow? (Evidence!) Feeling crazy inspired to share, teach, and create? (Evidence!)
–> Interrupting the crazy thoughts that say I’m behind because of “island time” or anything else for that matter.
–> Visualizing and embodying the energy of my next-level and milking it for every ounce of joy, ease, and flow it brings.
For months leading up to this move, I could feel the up-level coming. I knew that this move would transform myself, my family and my business in some truly magical ways and I still feel it. I can feel the expansion coming and I know that the magic will filter out into the lives of my clients too and working through this gremlin is part of that process.
Mindset work isn’t a one and done kind of deal. Our beliefs have layers, roots and seeds and somethings we can’t quite see the stuff that needs to shift in order to create the changes we need to make in life, which is what coaches can help us do.
But, whether you work with a coach or not, I want to invite you to look at your stuff. Look at the gremlins, go a little deeper and then decide, commit and practice the new thoughts. Do it daily and be consistent. I promise your dreams and desires are worth it.
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