Most clients get their greatest breakthroughs in the coaching process from the simple questions I ask them. Today, I’m sharing one that will help you get to the bottom what thoughts/beliefs are holding you back. And I promise, the question is annoyingly simple & it is the key to your next breakthrough. Ready?
What does that mean to/for/about you?
You are going to use this question when you’re experiencing a situation that has the potential to send you down the rabbit hole of doom, gloom & despair.
Example: You’re feeling really disappointed and let down because you didn’t get a job you really wanted. You felt like you did great in the interview, but yet again, you’re adding this position to the list of jobs you haven’t landed in the last few months & you’re losing hope.
You ask yourself the above question & this is what you come up with.
It means…
No one wants to hire me & that I’ll never get out of this crappy job that I can’t stand.
I don’t have the experience, connections or skillset to make more money.
That I’m not good enough & I’ll always be struggling financially.
I’m not as good as I thought.
Everything that you listed above are just indicators for the meaning & beliefs you are attaching to this event.
Remember, nothing means anything other than the meaning you give it.
AND it’s only true if you believe it.
So, with that simple question you’ve hit mindset gold & the key to your next breakthrough.
You can clearly see the thoughts/beliefs that have been holding you back & now you can change them. Better yet, I’d encourage you to change the meaning altogether.
Example: Maybe you didn’t get the job because there is something so much bigger & better than you can even imagine waiting for you.
It pays more, gives more time off & allows you to work from home (unlike the others you’ve applied for). Not only that it literally lands in your lap without a million interviews & negotiations.
(Sidenote: The last job I had actually happened as I just described so trust me when I say…this stuff is real!)
The point here is that this question gives you so much power to change your thoughts, beliefs & feelings, so they work for you (instead of against you).
It also keeps you off of the crazy roller-coaster ride of emotions that can happen when you give SO much meaning to the things happening around you. You can use it for virtually anything & it’s going to give you a ton of data about how you are thinking/believing & give you an opportunity to change it.
I highly recommend you use it & use it often.
For more insights like this & a full-on deep dive & transformation of your own beliefs so you can feel more peace, ease & confidence while you do your thing…get on my calendar & let’s (lovingly) whip your mindset into shape. Your breakthrough is on the other side. Let’s go!