Lamisha Serf-Walls

Isn’t it supposed to be EASY?

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Wait a minute, isn’t it supposed to be EASY?

Isn’t it supposed to be EASY when you are in flow and following the subtle nudges of the Universe?

Isn’t it supposed to be EASY when you are doing what you were put on this planet to do?

Isn’t it supposed to be EASY when you are in alignment with your soul purpose and mission?

My answer is an interesting one and unfortunately it’s not as cut and dry as you might think.

I have been having this very conversation with SO many clients this month and maybe it’s because of the Solar Eclipse energy, Mercury Retrograde, or any combination of the many energies unfolding at once.  But, one thing I know for sure is that MANY people have been having a rough go of it lately, myself included.

So, to answer the very convoluted question “isn’t it supposed to be easy”, I want to share the video below.

(Spoiler Alert: The answer is yes & no.) Click the video below to see what I mean.

 

 

Interested in how you can make things a bit more easy for yourself?

 

Let’s schedule a Free-30-Minute Consultation to chat. 

 

 

 

 

 

4 Things Holding You Back From Greatness

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If there is one thing I know it’s what it feels like to be held back…mostly by myself.

You see, on this journey of mine, I’ve been a PRO at getting in my own way of success and expansion and at one point I had done it so gloriously that even after knowing what I was meant to do (coaching/writing/teaching etc) I stalled my progress for 3 years!!!

(Just the thought of where I might be now had I started earlier, still haunts me sometimes.)

When I look back on those moments I can see so clearly the exact things that were holding me back and stopping me from taking even the tiniest step forward.

Funny enough, they are also the things I see within my clients and it may be something you’re struggling with too.

If you’ve been feeling a bit stifled in your journey and you’re not quite sure what’s got you stuck, keep reading. I think you will find the info below really helpful.

4 Things that may be holding you back from greatness.

1. Your past.  I can’t tell you how many times I hear people share with me how they can’t move forward on their path because their mom/sister/brother/spouse doesn’t support them ( or insert some other limiting story of the past). We all have a past and many of us have really painful, awful, sometimes tragic situations that have happened in our past that have been hard to overcome. I get it because I have one of my own and for a long time, I allowed it to hold me back. (Of course I didn’t know it at the time.)

When you are constantly revisiting your past in order to in some way validate where you are today, you are limiting yourself in a huge way. I am in no way trying to minimize what you have been through or the healing and care necessary to move through that, but what I am saying is that there is another way.

Your past can become the foundation that you build your future upon or it can become your resting place. You choose.

The more you give those past experiences your attention, the less power you have over your NOW. To be honest, this is a big reason I decided to go into coaching as opposed to therapy work. Don’t get me wrong therapy was a God-send for me many times, but at some point you have to shift your focus to what you are working toward and stop giving your power away to the things that have happened.

2. Analysis paralysis. Many people who are holding themselves back don’t have an issue with what to do, they have an issue with what to choose.

They spend hours, days, months, and even YEARS pondering what they should do next. Every thought seems to be followed with doubt, lack of confidence, and a general lack of clarity and momentum. They think, doubt, wonder, worry, and go through the cycle again without ever taking action.

They wonder things like…Which is the “right” way to go? How do I know if it will “work”? What should I do? What if I make the wrong move?

Again, I get it. I’ve been there and for 2+ years I delayed starting my soul’s work because I was overwhelmed with all the things. I didn’t know which way to turn or what to do. I doubted myself and even when I thought I had “decided” to do something, I couldn’t quite make it click because the doubt was within ME. I was afraid of moving forward more than I was afraid of staying where I was. So, round and round I went and it’s the same cycle I see many people in.

The answer? DO something. Make a list of all the things you can do to move you forward and pick one. The next day…do the same thing. Eventually you will get so used to taking (imperfect) action that it won’t be scary anymore.

3. Mind gremlins. I don’t have to tell you much about these because you probably already know them pretty well. The thing about mind gremlins (as I call them) is we ALL have them. I don’t care who you are or how far you’ve come. From time-to-time we all have that little voice in our head that causes us to question our abilities.

If your mind gremlins are like mine, you may see images of past failures populating your mind reminding you of just how tough it’s been and how you’ve “never” done anything like this before. Or maybe you hear your mom or dad’s voice saying something about how creative people are never successful or that, art isn’t a real job or some other incredibly frustrating thing that applies to your path.

The truth is YOU have power of your mindset and only when you understand that (and actually do something to change it) will things start moving for you. And let me tell you, it can move pretty quickly once you begin.

If you feel like you’ve been held back for a long time, your mindset may be on autopilot but the moment you start questioning (and maybe even responding to) the thoughts in your head, everything will change. I promise. So, take some time to take stock of the things you are thinking and then start being intention with your thoughts. If you dedicate at least 15 minutes a day to thinking thoughts that support and uplift you, I promise you will begin to feel the difference sooner rather than later.

4. You don’t know what you want. Sounds a bit nuts when you think about it, but it’s true. You might be surprised to know that there are far more people in the world who have no idea what it is that they want in life simply because they don’t think they can have whatever “it” may be. I talk to people all the time who when asked “What is it that you really want?” they reply with “I don’t know.”

Unfortunately, while some people are focused on living their dream life, there are far more people struggling to even dream. They’ve been knocked down so many times that they can’t quite get back to that “anything is possible” feeling we all had as children because they are so focused on being realistic.

Screw REALISTIC!

If you know anything about me you know realistic isn’t in my vocabulary. I despise the thought of anyone simply being “realistic” and settling for less than they desire and deserve. In fact, I’ve made it my mission in life to help people NOT be realistic and to actually give themselves permission to want what they want.

So, if YOU are one of those people living in “reality” and settling for whatever life throws your way, I beg you to reconsider and take a moment to ignite that inner child within you and go PLAY in your imagination a bit. If this is the thing holding you back, I want you to practice thinking outside the box for the next week. Daydream, journal, search exotic jobs and places on the internet, or follow that thread of creativity within you that has been whispering for sometime. Lean into it and see what bubbles to the surface. You may just find a whole treasure trove of goodness that will set your soul on fire and send you moving forward faster than you thought possible.

I want to leave you with one final thought in all of this.

STUCK isn’t forever and if you’ve been feeling like you have been chasing your tail for too long and you’re not sure when or how to make it stop…ask for help.

That is one of the things I waited too long to do. In fact, I waited a full 2 years (in my business) before I ever hired someone to support me. Now, it’s second nature to me.

You don’t have to do this alone and it doesn’t have to be hard.

Reach out. Ask for help. Believe in yourself. Get curious. Lean into the process.

When you do that, magic happens.

I know because I’ve been in your shoes.

So here’s the deal, if you’ve been struggling with 1 (or more) of the things above then my 6-week 1:1 program is what you need to shake the cobwebs loose and get you a plan of action forward again. It includes 3-45 minute coaching sessions and 6 weeks of unlimited guidance and support through video messaging and email for $597.

If you want to find out if we are a good fit to work together, hit the link below and let’s get you scheduled for a chat.

Your future is waiting for you.

YES! Help me break FREE!

Aligned Action + Your BIG Vision

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Happy Thursday friends!

It’s been awhile since I last posted and I’m happy to be back!

Today I want to talk to you about Aligned Action + Your BIG Vision and why that is so important.

If you’re like me, you probably already know what you want in life.  You can see it pretty clearly in your mind, but when it comes to actually doing it…well that may be a different story.

You see MOST people are pretty clear on what they want, but are less clear on the action piece.

It’s time to get crystal clear on what your aligned action is and how to do it consistently!

Are your actions in alignment with your desires?

If after watching the video above you realized your actions are not in fact in alignment with your desires and you need a bit of support and accountability to help you, I want to chat with you!

For a very limited time, I am offering a 6-Week Shot Coaching Program that will give you a quick shot of coaching, mindset work, accountability, clarity, and a plan of action to continue to use beyond our work together.

What you get…

  • 3- 45 Minute Coaching Sessions to do the deep work
  • 6 Weeks of email and video messaging for support between calls
  • Unlimited daily support for accountability, questions, challenges that pop up, and anything else you need support around
  • A plan of action for moving forward beyond our work together

Your investment: $597

So, if this is something you’re interested in exploring, I encourage you to hit the link below to schedule a FREE-30 Minute Consultation so we can see if we are a good fit.  I can’t wait to chat with you!

Book a free consultation here.

Change is coming…It’s time to step up!

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Can you feel the change that’s in the air?

It’s not necessarily a new feeling, but the changes are definitely feeling much more urgent and powerful these days.

The energy of our world as we know it is shifting in a BIG way and I’m not just talking in the political arena (though how can you miss that right now?).  I’m talking in the hearts and souls of every one of us.

It’s almost as if we are simply fed-up with settling for less than what we deserve and are no longer willing to just go along with the way things have been in the past.

We desire MORE…

More love, connection, passion, healing, support, purpose and compassion.

I’m finding more and more people feeling unsettled with the way things are and who are searching for something else.  Something that at this time they can’t quite put their finger on, but who are feeling called to DO something.

Many are finding the things that used to fulfill them no longer fit the bill and they are on a quest for more.  You may be feeling it too.

Are you finding that what used to feel comfortable, now feels grossly too small for your big dreams, desires, and goals?
 
Do you find your thoughts and desires shifting away from the mundane “stuff” as you focus on something that feels so much bigger than you? 

Maybe you feel a bit scattered with all the things that are catching your attention and while you’re not quite sure what lies ahead…you’re feeling something powerful bubble up from within.

Like a volcano threatening to explode, your inner world is aching to be seen, heard, and understood so you can finally get on with the big stuff.

You might even be feeling a bit bored, frustrated, or just plain confused as to what’s going on.

Let me explain a bit.

You see…where you are right now is in the middle of a major vibration shift.  We are all going through it and are being called to BE who we truly are and to STEP UP into the powerful, purposeful, incredible beings we were created to be.

  • No more excuses, delays, or playing follow the leader.
  • No more waiting for the right time, better time or a time when we have more time.

 

The time to follow your heart is NOW.

I’m not just talking about following your heart to a better career either.  I’m talking about following your heart to do the things you’ve been wanting, needing, and desiring to do for the longest time, but have been too afraid.

It’s way past time for us to be honest with ourselves and to own that incredible power that lies within to MAKE our lives (and even bigger our WORLD) the incredible, healing, powerful, compassionate, love-filled space that we came here to build.

For some of us that means doing the deep emotional work to clear the baggage that has up to now caused us to feel like that kind of change (purpose, prosperity, leadership and showing up) was meant for other people but surely not us.

For others it means stripping away all of excuses, fears, inadequacies, and the noise of the inner gremlins in order to tune into that quiet urging deep within that has been trying to get your attention.

One thing that is true for ALL of us is this…

Expansion is inevitable.

You get to decide how you’re going to handle the coming breakthroughs.

Are you going to lean into them, ask for support when you need it, and enjoy the ride?

Or

Are you going to hold onto the discomfort of the past while the expansion takes you away kicking and screaming.

The choice is always yours.  Believe me, in the time I’ve been doing this work, I’ve experienced both and leaning in is a far better choice.

Is it challenging at times?  Yes.

But when you immerse yourself in the peace that comes from finally listening to the call of your soul, you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.

It’s like coming back home to the entire Universe that lives within you.

It’s powerful, majestic, and it feels so good!

So, let me ask you.  Have you been feeling the changes coming, but haven’t been sure what to do with them?

If you’ve been feeling sick and tired of being sick and tired of the same old cycles repeating themselves in your life then YOU my friend are ready for change. 

You probably already knew that and you’ve been feeling it deep within your soul for awhile, but the question is…what steps have you taken?

If you’re not sure what steps to take or you feel stuck in a rut (and have been for awhile) then it may be time to reach out for assistance.

I’m working on some new ways for you to work with me this summer so I can help more people get through this transformation with as much ease and support as possible.  Incidentally, I’m also doing a bit of research to find out what YOU need the most support with so I can customize programs to fit those needs.

AND if you haven’t already completed the survey to share your thoughts and enter to win a free coaching session with me, you can do that here...+ I’d love you forever!)

If support is what you need and you want to chat about how I can support you on your path forward AND (this is a big one)…you are ready to COMMIT to the process, then hit the link below and let’s get you scheduled for a chat.

I look forward to chatting with you my friend!

Schedule your FREE 30-Minute Consultation HERE

 

4 Questions to ask when you feel stuck in life

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“I feel stuck in my life and I don’t know what to do!!!”

One of the things I see and hear way too often are people constantly, consistently, and continuously saying just how stuck and lost they feel.

They say it, think it, believe it, share it, tweet it, and write about it non-stop, all the while not realizing that they are actively creating more situations to feel stuck.  (I know it’s a viscous cycle.)

And believe it or not, I’ve found myself in those situations a time or two (or 10 if I’m honest) and it sucks.  I also know how absolutely real those feelings are and how you literally have no idea what to do.

But here’s the truth:

Your words matter.  They hold energy and they are actively creating your future!

(All day, everyday, no exceptions)

So, why not use more empowering language that will not only help you feel better, but also invite miracles into your life?

Here are 4 questions to ask yourself when you feel stuck in life.   The best part is that YOU don’t even have to come up with the answers!  How’s that for easy?

  • How does it get any better than this????  This very magical question can work in multiple ways.  When you are feeling amazing and life is unfolding perfectly, you can say it, write it, think it, chant it etc. and welcome in more awesomeness into your life.  You can also use it when things are tough and you feel a bit stuck.  By simply asking the Universe “How does it get any better than this?”, you are inviting the Universe to show you.  And believe me when I say, you will begin seeing the shifts almost immediately!  (Go ahead, give it a go!)

 

  • What would it take for me to _______???  This question is particularly useful when you find yourself at a loss for what to do next.  Posing this question in your daily mindset practice or whenever you feel stuck is just another way of asking for assistance and signs from the Universe.  I use this question for both seemingly big and small things and it works wonders.  Everything from “What would it take for me to get to my appointment safely and on time?” to “What would it take for me to have more than enough money for all that I want and need for the next 50 years?”–this question is powerful and can be used for virtually anything.  The key with this one is to pay attention to any and all ideas and nudges that come up for you after posing the question.  It’s very likely the Universe is giving you your answer.
  • What do I need to do to (be, have, do) ______?  Similar to the last question, this one asks specifically what do in order to fulfill whatever desire you have.  My suggestion for this question as well as the last is to work these into your daily journaling or mindset work consistently and see what ideas pop up for you.  Remember, you may not receive an instant booming voice in your head (you actually may never hear that anyway), but as you proceed through your days you will be guided.  Just listen and act.
  • How did I ______ so easily/quickly? This one is a bit different in that it plays a bit off of the affirmation idea and turns it into a question.  The idea is that you set up the question as if you have already received or experienced what you desire and you are asking how it happened so easily or quickly.  Again, the Universe is set up in a way that there are no questions without answers and when you ask this question, you will be led to the answers. Guaranteed.

I encourage you to use these questions for the next 7 days or so and see what happens.  Be playful about it and work it into your day through your mindset practice or have them pop up on your phone and then start noticing what you notice.  Become the observer in your life.

One more tip:  Try not to get too serious about this either.  At times we (ahem I) can get a bit too serious and start searching high and low for the answers which can stop the flow.  So, ask the questions and let it go, then watch the signs and synchronicities that unfold for you.

Want more help?  I’m currently only taking a handful of new clients for the summer and I’d love for you to be one if you feel moved to reach out.  Hit the link below and let’s see if we are a good fit.

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