To be honest with you, I have been dreading writing this post. Part of me knew I had to do some processing mentally and emotionally before I could put anything in writing and the other part of me was just plain embarrassed.
Embarrassed of looking like a fraud, a scam, a loser and my worst fear…a FAILURE.
So what did I fail at exactly?
I failed at listening to my intuition when it told me something wasn’t a good fit.
I failed at recognizing the signs that reinforced something wasn’t a good fit.
I failed at standing in my power to declare to myself and YOU that it’s ok to pull the plug on something that isn’t a good fit.
So what is this elusive ‘thing’ that isn’t a good fit?
The 90-Days To Biz Brilliance program.
Yep, the program I was so excited about (initially before the signs) and the same program I put off releasing twice for various reasons (because I clearly ignored the signs.)
The short story is this. I fell into the trap of thinking that other people know me better than myself and while some of my clients are female entrepreneurs, I am not a ‘business coach’. Here’s where it gets a little confusing even for me. The biz brilliance program is actually full of amazing content, support, information, and practices to handle the stuff that comes up when you are creating a business, but it is also good for people NOT in business.
I was excited about the program. I shared it with you and in various other networks happily. I loved the feeling of the program, but something I couldn’t quite put my finger on felt off. The more I shared, the more off it felt. And when the feeling got to be too much, I knew that it wasn’t going to fly, but I was too afraid to pull the plug for fear of looking unprofessional. I didn’t want anyone to think any less of me and to see me the way I was seeing me in that moment…a failure.
But despite all of that this is what I have learned:
- I now know what the off feeling feels like in my body and I can use that in the future
- I took a HUGE step to create a program that has good bones and can be used in another way…later
- I am not a failure
- I now have more clarity about what isn’t a good fit for me, which is equally as important as knowing what is
- Life (and my business) goes on despite this bump in the road
- Listening to my intuition and inner wisdom is always the best way
It is imperative to trust that tiny whisper within that tells you something isn’t right and the nudge you get to go in a particular direction. Learn to listen to yourself and let go of the other stuff that doesn’t feel right for you. Tap into your intuition on a daily basis and allow it to guide you forward. It takes practice, I know especially when you are in business and there are so formulas for ‘success’. Your success will come to you in a way that feels right and fits your path.
Another big thing this experience taught me is that trying is succeeding in its own right, so keep trying. Keep experimenting and keep going. Do you know how many times Albert Einstein ‘failed’ in his experiments before he got one ‘right’? If one of the most amazing scientific geniuses in history can ‘fail’ a few times to get to something incredible, then don’t you think we can too?
Life is about experience, so remember that as you try and try (and try) again. Don’t forget to trust too. Trust is a big part of the process. Knowing that you will get to where you are going as long as you keep going.
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Thank you for sharing this Lamisha. It is important to remember that we are all human and come with mistakes and bumps along the way. This is the third time in two days that I have read or heard someone mention “trusting” your own process. I think the universe is sending out a message. Great post.
Susan, yes trusting your own process is huge! We are so different in our own creativity and expertise and the ways that work for others aren’t necessarily what works for us. The key is to listen…truly listen to our inner voice. Practicing that everyday!
What an inspiring post. Failure is as important of a lesson as success is. My first grade teacher always said, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, again.”
So very true! Every ‘failure’ is a lesson for sure! Thanks for the reminder!