Last week I shared a message on Facebook that I felt called to also share with you because it’s a challenge I see *so* many women struggle with in this work.
This is a challenge I’ve struggled with for a good portion of my life and I speak from experience when I say it’s one of the toughest things to overcome and if this is something you struggle with as well, I want you to know that you are not alone & you absolutely don’t have to move through it alone. Ready? Let’s dive in.
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Many of the women I work with, come to me for one issue and through our work we uncover a variety of beliefs that are holding them back.
The BIG one I see most often and the one that is a surefire way to throw the brakes on any new path, adventure or desire you might have is this… I am unworthy.
The truth is, it comes in a variety of shapes, sizes and disguises, but the premise is the same.
–> Unworthiness or Not enough-ness <–
It seems many people have grown up with this message and carried it for the bulk of their lives. While the origin for this belief varies from person to person, for some it stems from a feeling of abandonment.
Whether it’s emotional abandonment from parents, caretakers or partners or a perceived abandonment in some other way…the result is very much the same…feeling not enough.
Not good enough or smart enough.
Not attractive enough or thin enough.
Not successful enough or skilled enough.
Not rich enough or worthy enough.
Just…not…enough.
If you can relate to that message in some way, you might feel as though you’ve settled in life. Settled for a career, relationship, financial, or health situation that is less than desirable and no matter how much you hope it were different or how hard you try to change it…you don’t feel good enough to do it.
If you’re anything like I was when I began this journey, you might think to yourself…
If only I had/knew/could <fill in the blank> then, I would feel like I’m finally ready (aka enough) to be/have/do it.
You might even find that even the GOOD things don’t last long because you don’t feel worthy of them.
–>I know this. I feel this. I can so relate to this because this has been one of my biggest struggles<–
When I first started doing this work, I didn’t think I was “good enough” to help anyone. Later, I questioned if I was good enough to charge for my work, raise my rates and set boundaries with my time. I’ve moved through my life, relationships, and business not feeling worthy enough of love, money, success, support and even some of the incredible testimonials clients willingly share.
But, no matter how unworthy or “not good enough” I felt, there was a little voice in the back of my mind urging me not to abandon my big dreams and desires and instead to believe in something bigger and better for myself.
A recent client of mine put it in words that were far better than I could ever describe it…
She said that she realized in all the areas of her life where she felt abandonment, she’s decided to no longer abandon herself…and THAT friends, is what is creating the shift she needs.
When you commit to backing yourself up and you choose to believe in something bigger and better than what lies in your past, you are capable of anything. And if we are being honest here….that nonsense about you not being good enough/worthy enough is only true if you believe it.
I’m here to tell you it’s time to put that non-sensical belief to bed.
Let’s be clear…
–>You ARE worthy and deserving because you are here and every desire you have currently is valid, important, and yes…you get to be, have and do whatever you choose IF you are willing to believe that.
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–> No matter how many times you’ve felt abandoned in your life, it’s time to decide you are no longer going to abandon yourself, your dreams or your desires. You have a FULL life to create and you have the power to make that happen.
Change starts here.
No one is going to do it for you and to be honest, no one could even if they wanted to. This work, my friends is up to you to say “yes” to.
But you know what else? You don’t have to do it alone. If I had known then, what I know now, I would have gotten support even before I thought I was completely ready because looking back, 11 years is way too long to try and figure it out by myself.
You’ve got a *big* life to live and if you’re tired of being stuck in the same old cycle, same old story & you’re ready to see what you can do when you get your mindset & energy behind you...I’m here to help.
The moral of the story is this…you ARE worthy and deserving of creating the life you desire and it’s time to stop abandoning yourself and your dreams due to some nonsense beliefs that you can change.