I read a post last night from a friend regarding her experience of the “stuff” that is weighing her down and her intentions of letting it go. It reminded me of something I have been thinking about for a few weeks now, as I have been making attempts to also clear out the old, to make room for the new (whatever that entails).
Have you ever heard the saying that when you open your hand to let go, it is also open to receive? It can also be said that you must first let go of a little bit of your control to allow your dreams to manifest. I think the same goes for making space, both literally and mentally, for your dreams to come true. We often forget that in order to bring something new into our lives, we have to let go of the things that no longer serve us, be it behaviors, beliefs, or tangible objects that are blocking our ability to receive the resources we need to move forward. Sometimes those beliefs, objects, or behaviors are all that we know and letting go of what we have always known for something that we can’t yet see is a scary venture. I know, I have been there before.
The truth is our dreams are not guaranteed, but then again you could say that about anything in life. The best we can do is have faith in ourselves and trust that we are not traveling this path by chance. We are instead making a choice to live a life full of experiences, adventure and fulfilling our deepest desires and many times we must be willing to walk into the unknown to do it and sometimes that means letting go of the things that no longer serve your current reality to make room for the life you dream of.
I have always been much better at letting go of physical things than I am with letting go of my control (or perceived control as it may be). I often find myself at the end of each season looking into my closet and donating items that no longer fit or things I haven’t worn in over a year. I would much rather have the added space than the item I won’t use again. When it comes to letting go of my expectations of myself or the beliefs I hold true about how my dreams should manifest, I am a bit more reluctant to let go. Maybe it is because I am such a planner and when I get set on one plan, I begin to limit other possibilities. Recently I have been thinking of what “stuff” I might need to let go of in order to receive the flow of energy, resources, and other contacts I need in order to make my dreams come true.
How can I make room for my dreams?
The first thing that comes to mind is time. I hear people talking (myself included) about the lack of time they have, when really it is more about how you allocate your time. Do you spend it doing things that will help benefit your dreams and goals or do you use it doing things that you feel you have to do? Why not free up some time to do the things that will bring you closer to your dreams, no matter what it is? For me this includes writing almost everyday. I could become a much better writer if I committed to writing a little bit everyday and I could make the time if I got up only 30 minutes earlier each day.
Another thing I could do is clear out the belief that my dreams have to manifest based on the exact plan I have come up with. My plan stems from what I believe is most feasible and realistic in achieving my dreams. It is how I have come to know the world and my own abilities within it. I know that by doing this I am not allowing the other innumerable possibilities to be an option. My focus is so set on how I want it to happen, that I am quite possibly missing signs that could lead me in a direction I haven’t thought about. I am by no means an expert in all the wonderful possibilities that my dreams could manifest, so how can I believe that there is only one way to do it?
I can’t.
I must be able to let go of the notion that I have it all planned out. Sometimes, (actually most times) I don’t have the only way to do something and I frequently don’t even know the best way to do things. When I let go of the idea that there is only one way to create my dreams, many more options present themselves. The key is letting go and having faith that my dreams will come to fruition even if it isn’t the way I thought it would. If I continue to believe in myself and my abilities and open my hands to release a bit of my control, my energy is then free to flow to the other possibilities that come my way.
So how can you make room for your dreams? Do your dreams require you to pare down your belongings so you can travel the world for a year? Maybe you want to start that business you have always wanted, but it means you have to free up some time, money, and space for that business to come alive. Whatever dreams you have, what can you do to make room for them?
KJ says
What a beautiful reflection! I have similar difficulties with letting go of (perceived) control, especially when it comes to my dreams and plans. But I’m slowly discovering that the more I can open my clenched fists to make room for other possibilities, the more often wonderful opportunities appear in my life that guide me in the direction that I wanted to go (although often not in the exact way that I pictured it). Best wishes with your journey of letting go. I think it’s one that is ongoing all of our lives …
lserf13 says
Thanks KJ! It certainly is quite the journey of realization but each time I let go, I find it becomes a bit easier.