In order to create the “more” you are looking for in life, it’s critical to manage your mindset & energy…here’s how you do that.
When things are going really well…
Mindset: Practice the thought “This is normal. This is my new normal.” This activates new thought patterns around what is “normal” & comfortable for you so you can create more of the same in the future. The more you get comfortable with this new level of norm, the easier it is to create again.
Energetically: Focus on grounding into the neutral/normal feeling of “of course”….this is just how life works out for me. Anchor in the energy of the moment. Let your emotional body get super comfortable & secure in this potentially “new” space. Breathe into it & allow it to be your new set point. Again, this creates a sense of safety in your nervous system when things are good & you’re less likely to sabotage as things continue to get better & better.
When things aren’t going as well…
First,…feel the feels always. You cannot bypass the feelings phase of the process. You can try to, but know that they will always come back up. Feel the feelings as & don’t make them “wrong”.
Energetically: Anchor in the feeling of sufficiency/safety by creating a safe space for your nervous system to regulate. This is going to take some practice & trial/error because most of us haven’t been taught to properly regulate our nervous systems. So try things like…meditation, getting outside, cold showers, ice bath/water on the face, EFT tapping, deep breathing, grounding yourself etc. There are many ways to soothe your body so find what works for you & do it. Remember, you need to soothe the body before you set the mind.
Mindset: When (and only when) your nervous system has been regulated, you can begin to invite new thoughts. Practice thoughts like “Huh…isn’t that interesting. I wonder what this is trying to teach me?” You can also challenge yourself to look at how this situation (as disappointing & frustrating as it might be) is setting you up for something better. Make a list of how it’s still working out for you.
Another good question to ask is “What do I choose for this to mean to/about me?” You might choose to see that lay off as an opportunity to take the leap into your own business while you look for work in the interim etc. Find the thought/belief that provides an opening to better and better thoughts/feelings.
These practices not only help you manage your mindset & feel better overall, but it takes you off the roller coaster ride of highs & lows depending on your circumstance.
Listen, circumstances of your life are ALWAYS going to be in flux. And yes, you are likely going to have some thoughts and feelings about them, but it doesn’t mean they have to determine your beliefs.
Book your consultation below & I’ll walk you through my 3 part process to manage the mind drama so you can get your children’s book on the ‘just released’ table at Barnes & Noble…or whatever it is you want to do! Let’s go!