I know a lot about feeling stuck in life. In fact, I’ve felt that way far too many times to count which is why I am so passionate about this work.
Recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about the way our brains work and how so many of us are still stuck when we KNOW what we “need” to do, but we just don’t do it.
For instance, I know I will feel better if I am working out consistently, but often I will let my workout be the thing that falls off my plate first before anything else.
For you it might be something like not doing your mindset work when you know it will make a huge difference in your life.
Or maybe you find yourself squandering away your free time, when you know that time could be spent on some tasks that will move your business or dream forward.
Or maybe you are the person who constantly is giving to everyone else, knowing that eventually you will likely burn yourself out and end up exhausted and potentially sick.
Why do we do this to ourselves???
The “reasons” vary, but they typically fall into 2 categories.
1. Being comfortable with the discomfort
2. Mindset junk
Being comfortable with the discomfort simply means you’ve have been “here” for so long that you’ve accepted it as your truth. Sure, the added weight, guilt, frustration, and worry are all a bit uncomfortable for you, but you’ve dealt with them long enough that they aren’t a big deal.
These discomforts have become a part of your life’s landscape. It’s like walking into the “junk” room of your home and knowing what it’s going to look like and you become almost immune to the discomfort. It’s there and you want to change it, but you’ve grown accustomed to how things are so you stay stuck.
Basically, you aren’t feeling “bad” enough to motivate yourself to change.
This is why we see so many people hit rock bottom before they actually DO something about it. A health scare, a bad accident, a financial crisis etc. are all things that many people have to get to before they decide to make lasting changes. It’s sad, but true.
Mindset junk of course is the other category and it includes all the other beliefs, thoughts, fears, and worries that keep us from changing. The thoughts that tell us that we’ve never been thin and likely never will be or that we’ve always been bad with money.
These are basically thoughts that again…you’ve settled into believing.
You’ve thought them so many times and found so much “evidence” in your life to support them, that you no longer question if they are true. And even if you begin to take the action steps to change your life (start working out, eating better, and getting organized with your time) if you aren’t ALSO doing the mindset work, those actions are likely going to fall by the wayside very quickly.
So, how do you break the cycle and create lasting change without hitting rock bottom?
You play both ends to the middle-meaning, you set the intention to change BEFORE you hit rock bottom AND you get serious about uncovering the mindset junk that is sabotaging your actions and keeping you stuck.
• Get crystal clear on WHY you want to change your life and what that will do for you
• Connect to that FEELING (you’re going to need it when things get rough)
• Commit to doing the mindset work DAILY to uncover, clear, and replace the beliefs that are keeping you in the holding pattern
And if you really want to go at it with all you got, hire help.
There is nothing like putting your money where you’re mouth is when you set an intention in order to really get yourself into a place of change. Now, I’m not talking about spending thousands of dollars and I’m not even saying you need to hire me.
What I AM saying is that sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know and your vision is limited when it comes to being able to see what has you blocked.
And if you are here, reading this message then maybe, just maybe I am the coach for you. If not, go find the one who is because there is nothing I want more than to see you THRIVE in all the things you want to be, have and do in this life.
If the 2 things I listed above are holding you back from that amazing life…then it’s time to do something about it. Something different, something bold, something outside of your comfort zone. It’s time to make a different choice.
You don’t have to wait for the New Year to make a change. Dare to do things differently NOW. I promise your future self will thank you for it.
P.S. If this message feels personal and it feels like I’m speaking directly to YOU, know that I am and I’d love to chat with you if you’re ready to take the leap.
I still have some spots open in my HeadCase Program: 1:1 Coaching for Mindset Mastery at the current rate $777. (Rates go up in 2018 once these final spots are filled.)
If you are interested then let’s get you scheduled for a free consultation to see if we are good fit.