Lamisha Serf-Walls

Don’t Let Your Scotoma Kill Your Dreams

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photo credit: Giulia Bartra via photopin cc
photo credit: Giulia Bartra via photopin cc

There is an epidemic going on in the world and every single person reading this is affected.

I’m not talking about war or the epic flu that has been going around, I’m talking about something that in the world of magic, miracles & manifesting the life of your dreams, is far more deadly.

Your scotoma.

Sounds a bit like a disease, but instead of affecting your body, this affects your mindset and is deadly when it comes to you creating and enjoying the life you have always wanted.

Scotoma: a spot in the visual field in which vision is absent or deficient.  

(The Merriam-Webster definition)

So what does this definition of a visual blind spot have to do with your dreams? The easy answer is everything.

You see, so many times I chat with amazing women like yourself who have equally amazing dreams to create a life that works for them and brings them joy.  They are ready and willing to venture into uncharted territory and will begin taking steps to make big waves in the world and then BAM-their Scotoma shows up and causes them to retreat.

But the thing is they don’t SEE it.  It’s a silent but deadly killer in the world of your dreams and you very rarely see it coming.

You can be moving along happily with your plans, inspiration, joy, and passion until one day everything feels like it’s crumbling around you.

Your confidence flies out the window, you wonder why or how you ever started and you are triggered left and right.

Doubt, fear, and insecurities settle in and you begin to retreat, trying to fit into the comfortable and safe box that you just left.

But the box is broken and you no longer have a space there..so the only way to keep moving forward is to identify the scotoma (aka blind spot that blind sided you on your path) and to shift the shit so you can reset your mindset and be on your merry way.

So, how do you identify this thing that can’t be seen but has the power to throw you off your game faster than you could get your dream off the ground? By seeking the help of an expert.

The truth is you are too close to see what exactly needs shifting.  The gremlins in your mind are playing tricks on you and your Ego is negotiating with you so you will continue to play small, but you know something has to shift.

You may not know what it is, but you know that a change needs to be made.  It’s time to clear up your vision, shift the shit that needs shifting, and to send you onward on your path.

Lucky for you, I’m not only a master shit-shifter, but I am also a scotoma-ologist (if there were ever such a thing.)

I have a vantage point unlike any other and am able to help you see the thing that is holding you back and when you see how small it can be (sometimes the size of a splinter) and how easy it is to shift it for you, you will wonder why you couldn’t see it to begin with.

You will have better focus, more inspiration, and confidence in your abilities to create and craft the life of your dreams.  And the next time you find yourself sliding off your game, you will be better equipped to locate the culprit.

Creating & manifesting the life of your dreams isn’t an exact science and there isn’t a how-to guide because we are all different.

There are bumps, hurdles, and curves that we each must move through because there is a lesson in each one.  A lesson that we will build upon as we continue to grow and until you are able to shift it, change it and rearrange your mindset, you won’t be able to stand fully in your power.

But, you don’t have to go through those lessons alone, in fact that’s not how we are built.  We are here to help one another.  To encourage, uplift, share, and when it’s needed shift the shit that is holding you back. That’s what I want to do for you.

Got shit that needs shifting? I’ve got a Free 30-Minute Consultation with your name on it and an opportunity for you to work with me in a new way not yet listed on my website.  It’s an intro-offer set aside just for those that want help with their mindset junk. Interested?

Let’s chat!

Your Dream Life In 3 Simple Steps

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photo credit: “The Wanderer’s Eye Photography” via photopin cc

Your dream life is a mere 3 steps away…

Sound too good to be true?

It’s not.

Take a moment and evaluate your life right now.  Would you say you are living the life of your dreams or do you feel stuck?

Maybe you are like a lot of people and have the dream floating around in your head as an ‘if only’ thought.

But I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way.  It can be your reality right now.

Here’s how.

Step 1:  Know what you want.  Do you know what your dream life looks like for you?  Have you taken the time to get clear on what you truly want out of life? I’m not talking about what seems realistic or logical.  I’m talking about what you really want.  What gets you excited about life? What lights your fire? What is it that you want out of life?  Is it freedom? A career you are passionate about? Family time? Travel? Writing? What is your dream? Identify that and the rest is easy.

Step 2: Clear the junk.  To live the life of your dreams you have to know without a shadow of a doubt it is possible.  Any thought or belief that contradicts that fact must be cleared.  Any block or barrier in your thoughts about your worthiness or value to live the life you deserve, must be released and getting help identifying your blind spot is more valuable than you know.

Step 3: Listen with your heart and take inspired action. There is no doubt you have to take action to move along your path, but the key is allowing your intuition and inspiration to guide you.  This isn’t about setting the most logical plan of action.  This is about getting out of your head and into your heart and allowing that to be your guide which isn’t always easy.  Following the logical steps or trying to outline your entire journey will result in the blood, sweat, and tears kind of hard work we have been taught.  But the heart path feels effortless and almost too easy.  It’s fun, inspiring, and will lead to more expansion and growth than you have ever known.

Here’s my challenge to you today.  Look at the steps and see where you are, but better yet, what you are going to do about it.

If you aren’t living the life of your dreams it is likely because you are stuck in one of the 3 steps and it really doesn’t matter where you are stuck as much as much as it matters what you are going to do about it.

Don’t know what you want? I can help.

Got some junk to clear? I can help.

Need to learn the inspired way? I can help with that too.

If you are ready to drop the excuses so you can live the amazing life you were made for, do yourself a favor and invest in yourself.

So? What are you going to do?

I have a few spots left in my 3-Month Program and in my Blind Spot Discovery Sessions so if you want in, now is the time!

Not sure you are ready to take the leap? Schedule a 30-Minute Consultation to find out.

Don’t Settle…

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SERENDIPITY

Have you bought the myth that you can’t have everything you want?

That if you have a fabulous career you love, your relationships have to suck?

OR if you have an amazing relationship, you can’t have all the riches your heart desires?

OR even if you have all the money you desire, you might have to enjoy it all alone?

I’m calling bullshit.

I want to know… Who are you not to have it all?

Who are you not to have the love, the riches, the joy, the career, the family, the fame and anything else your heart desires?

Believing anything less feels like lack. It feels like maybe we think we don’t deserve it.

Because the truth is happiness is not just the stuff in fairytales.

Life is about living, loving, sharing, expanding and experiencing everything.

That’s why I created the Blind Spot Discovery Sessions, laser-focused one-on-one calls where we identify and clear the blocks holding you back – for good.

So you can go on to experience, expand and enjoy the life you’ve always wanted.

We’ll identify and clear the blind spot that’s been in the way for too long.

The Blind Spot Discovery Session includes:

  • 30-minute consult to help me understand where you are and where you want to be.
  • 90-minute call (phone or Skype) so we can dig in. We’ll identify the blind spot, uproot it and arm you with the tools you need to clear it once and for all.
  • 30-minute follow-up to keep you on track.
  • Unlimited email support between calls and for two weeks after our follow-up.

Do you know what happens when you believe you can’t have it all?

You settle.

You settle for the parts of your life that aren’t working because you believe if most of your life is going well, you shouldn’t complain.

Let’s not do that. Let’s knock this blind spot out so you can get on with your amazing life.

Investment: $549 or two payments of $300

Because you don’t have to settle, and you certainly don’t have to accept anything in your life isn’t working the way you want it to.

I have a few slots left this year for Blind Spot Sessions. Contact me at lamisha@lifeoncedreamt.com and we’ll get you back to fabulous NOW.

My BS: Who Am I To Help?

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Earlier this week I shared this post with my VIP tribe and while it’s a bit of a vulnerable post, I realized how important it is for me to share it with you as well.  May you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and join me in facing your BS head on, because honestly it’s hard to change anything with that junk holding you back.

Ok, it’s time for me to get something off my chest.  It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently as I have been facing the BS (aka Blind Spot) that has been holding me back and I’m done with it!

The past two months have been pretty tough.  The positive side of me wants to tell you all about the growth, the lessons, and the beautiful blessings in disguise and while there was a lot of that going on that’s not always how it felt. There is another part of me that remembers the worry, the fear, the frustration, and at times the overwhelming tears.In the midst of chaos at home, schedules being thrown out the window, and lots of change going on both personally & professionally, I was forced to face my BS…head on.

The BS I’m talking about is both bull shit & something you may know as my Blind Spot.Yep, in the middle of sharing with you how your BS can hold you back, mine was there waiting for me, trying desperately to get me to not only play small, but quit playing all together. (Funny how that happens right?)  And once I realized what it really was that was holding me back in my business (with the help of another coach), I knew I had to share it with you.

So, here is my most recent experience coming face-to-face with my BS.  My hope is that when you hear my story, you leave with a deeper understanding of how imperative it is to identify and clear your own Blind Spot and you have a bit more compassion for yourself.  Regardless of who you are, what you do, or what area of your life is affected, we all have thoughts & beliefs that are holding us back in our careers, love, relationships, and life in general.  And the best part of all: there is a way to identify and clear it!

Coming face-to-face with your BS isn’t fun or all that comfortable, but I assure you it is the first step to living that amazing, free-flowing, ever expanding life of your dreams.  It is almost as if we believe we can’t or shouldn’t have it all, but as one of my favorite quotes says:

“We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?” 

~Marianne Williamson

Go be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous and clear the BS that is in your way!  You have an amazing life of freedom and flow to live so hop to it!

I believe in you,

Are You In Danger of This? (And how not to sacrifice your happiness.)

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Danger

 

What if someone could tell you without a shadow of a doubt the way your future will likely unfold if you continue on the exact course you are on this very minute?

Would you be interested?

No, I’m not switching businesses and becoming a psychic 🙂

I ask you that because I know something that you might not be aware of and again I’m no psychic, but I have seen this enough to know that you might be in danger.

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Meet Joni* (Names have been changed for privacy sake.)

Joni is an incredibly talented entrepreneur.  She’s sweet, charismatic, caring, compassionate and people adore her!  She’s married to her soul mate, has a gorgeous home, and is blessed with creativity that flows like an open faucet.  Her business is booming and her calendar is booked out 9 months!

BUT…

She’s got a problem and it’s a BIG one.

She is having a hard time finding balance amongst all the awesomeness that is her life.

When she is in work mode, she’s hard-core.  She works long hours, stays up late, and often burns the candle at both ends.

When she manages to find time to focus on her ‘home’ life with her hubby, she is constantly trying to make up for lost time.

She’s lost on the teeter-totter of two extremes and no matter what she does she can’t quite find the happy medium.

The result:

She’s frustrated and cranky most days.  When she’s focused on her business, she worries about her relationship and the many things at home that feel half-assed or un-done.  When she’s at home, she worries about being at work. She thinks: “What if my clients need me?  What about the next deadline?  The next launch? Did I return all important emails?”

She’s stuck, overwhelmed, and feels guilty about not being where she needs to be and often feels like a failure.

She frequently discounts her successes or over looks them completely because she becomes hyper-focused on the things that aren’t working (aka not being able to find balance).

What on the outside looks like an awesome life, on the inside feels unbalanced and incomplete.  She frequently thinks that “if only” she could find the balance between her two very important worlds, she could finally ease into relaxation mode and actually enjoy the magnificent life she has created.

But without being able to see the core issue (which is not the lack of balance in her life), she is destined for a life of exhaustion, fear, frustration, and stuck-ness. She is blind to the belief that is holding her back because she is simply too close to see it.  What she thinks is a simple fix that centers around time management and taking a break every now and then is really just a symptom of a deeper issue.

She has a choice.  She can continue to try to treat the symptom (i.e. the lack of balance in her life) and experience the brief reprieve that it provides for her or she can choose to seek help.  And to be honest, she must first understand and be aware of the consequences of not clearing this issue.

Examples:

  • A stressed work life can result in physical illness
  • A stressed home life can result in relationship trouble
  • A stressed inner life can result in incredible fear, lack of confidence, self-sabotage, and even worse…an unhappy, unfulfilled life.

Getting to the end of her rope and being truly ready to move through this challenge once and for all, Joni reaches out for help.  She knows the magnificence that lies on the other side of this struggle and she’s ready to identify and clear the belief that is holding her hostage in exhaustion, fear, and frustration.

The question is are YOU?

happinessMany of you may be able to directly relate to the specific challenge or symptom that Joni has struggled with or you have your own issue that manifests itself in your life or business in your relationships, self-care, time management, procrastination, marketing (or lack thereof), or maybe it is something different.

The point is we all have that one thing that keeps showing up for us over and over again that leaves us feeling drained, frustrated, and just plain stuck.  There are some of you who are ready to throw in the towel and accept that ‘this is just the way life is’ and you may even believe ‘you just can’t have it all’.

But I am here to tell you, there IS a solution to your problem and it starts with this first step: You must first know the consequences of continuing on the path you are on and refuse to sacrifice the joy and fulfilling life you are destined for any longer.

That’s it.

Life is supposed to be amazing and you are meant to work through the lessons, beliefs, and challenges that hold us back from that incredible joy.  It is part of your journey, but you get to choose if you are ready to move forward and clear it and some of the biggest challenges are those we can’t see directly because we are simply too close.

With that I ask you:

What amazing-ness are you sacrificing by staying stuck? AND Are you ready to take the first step to free yourself from the struggle and frustration?

If so, I invite you to schedule a 30-Minute Consultation to chat with me about your challenges and to see if (like Joni) you are ready to clear them once and for all.  No strings attached.  So what do you say? Are you ready?

P.S. Don’t forget that the 7-Day Resolution Refresh challenge begins on Monday so if you are in need of some inspiration to get some of those amazing goals knocked off your to-do list, get signed up so you don’t miss a beat!