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Choices—> You Always Have Them

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photo credit: Deepak Chopra No matter what the situation, remind yourself 'I have a choice.' via photopin (license)
photo credit: Deepak Chopra No matter what the situation, remind yourself ‘I have a choice.’ via photopin (license)

 

Every morning, I spend about 45 minutes doing mindset work and as I was doing the journaling portion of my work this morning, I found myself writing statements that started with I CHOOSE.

Things like…

I CHOOSE happiness, abundance, and love.
I CHOOSE to believe in the greater good of all.
I CHOOSE to believe that my life is limitless.
I CHOOSE peace, love, and abundance in all areas of my life.

And it struck me that MOST of us don’t believe we truly have a choice in life.

With the recent political circumstances, decisions, and governing bodies around the world, there are SO many people feeling powerless and lost in the shuffle.

They are letting FEAR lead the way as they wonder what will come of their future.

HOW will they live?
WHAT’s going to happen next?
WHAT’s the purpose of all of this?

And yet, they forget, overlook, or simply tune out of the idea that they have a CHOICE in this moment and every moment forward.

WE ALL DO.

Listen, I know that the world looks like it’s going to hell in a hand basket and we are losing hope with every violent act, shitty political candidate, and governmental decision, but even in all the chaos, perceived instability, and the shit-storm that is happening around us…WE HAVE A CHOICE.

 

Every time you THINK a thought, watch the news, engage in a conversation or turn your focus to FEAR—> you’ve made a choice.

BUT you also have a choice to turn your thoughts to love, to focus on what is going right and in the least focus on what it is you WANT to experience in the world around you and believe it or not THAT is where your ‪power‬ lies.

YOU decide what you want to believe and therefore attract into your experience.

YOU decide where you focus your attention and therefore what you experience in your day-to-day life.

YOU get to DECIDE…today and everyday and that is so much more powerful than anything the government can do for you.

 

It’s time to take back your power and DECIDE what YOU will experience and there for attract into your life.

I guarantee it’s worth a bit of a mindset shift.

Turn your thoughts to love, forgiveness, abundance, joy, peace, support, compassion, community, happiness, prosperity, and all the things you actually WANT to attract into your life.

For THAT is where you have the power even in the grimmest of circumstances.

CHOOSE where you will focus your energy and love.

CHOOSE what you will do to shape the world and make a difference.

But most of all CHOOSE what you want for YOUR life for it will create ripples across the world for years to come.

There is no more time to waste…we all must do our part to focus our minds in the right place to create change and if you aren’t sure how to shift your mindset or how to more fully step into your power, I invite you to schedule a free 30-Minute Consultation below. 

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The Ever-Evolving Dream=No Wrong Choices

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It seems the world we live in today involves a ton of black/white issues.

Right vs Wrong

Good vs Bad

Yes vs No

This vs That

There is judgement in every seemingly wrong choice we make and the more we analyze our choices so we won’t make the ‘wrong’ choice, we paralyze ourselves from choosing at all.

Is it just me?

I have lived for far too long trying to make the best choices in all areas of my life that often times result in a ton of stress, strife, and guilt wondering if whatever choice I finally decided on was the right one.

It’s exhausting, draining, and just down right a waste of time.

Lucky for me, I am learning this lesson as I put it more into practice.

The truth of life is there are no wrong choices, in anything.  There are simply choices that will lead you down one path or another.  Forks in the road that may lead to amazing experiences, lessons, and gifts you wouldn’t have experienced otherwise.  Winding roads that may not make for a direct route to your dreams, but will deliver you to other dreams you hadn’t even thought of.

That is life.

And what a beautiful life it is.

You see, as far as your dreams are concerned, there are no wrong choices, bad times, poor actions, or failure.  There are simply choices that will help you and your dreams evolve.  There are paths that may send you into a forest of lessons, magic, miracles, and connections you never thought possible.  Each step you take will move you further along your path and each step will be perfect in its own right.  There are no wrong turns or choices.  There are just turns and choices that will move you along your path.

I say all of this to remind you that your dreams will grow, evolve, and change shape at times and everything that happens is perfect for YOU.  So sit back, relax, and make choices based on what feels right for you and know that even if it doesn’t bring you the outcome you first desired, that doesn’t mean it’s wrong or bad.  It’ just is what it is…another step, another lesson, another choice point for you in life.

When you take the emotional charge and judgement of right/wrong and good/bad and this/that, things not only feel easier, but your path will unfold in a more beautiful, flowing, and perfect way.

Remember everything is working out for you right here, right now.

Do you find yourself hanging onto right/wrong choices?  If so, what do you feel if you accept every step as perfect in all ways?  I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

 

Decisions, Decisions Which Will You Choose?

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Everyday we are making hundreds of decisions.  Decisions about what time to wake up, what to wear, what to eat, where to go, how to get there etc.  Some decisions are not huge life-altering choices and are seemingly easier to make.  If I decide to wake up at 5 am as opposed to 5:30 am, I can make that choice rather easily.  When I decide what to eat for lunch, I simply ask myself, “What do I feel like eating?”, and if it is readily available, I will eat that.  Many times these daily decisions require little to no assistance from anyone but ourselves, giving us the freedom to follow our emotions, inspiration, and our own feelings to choose between choice A and choice B.

Then there are the other decisions.

You know, the ones that feel huge, life-altering, oh-my-goodness-I-hope-I-make-the-right-choice, kind of decisions.  Those decisions are much less easy-going and can create a lot of anxiety, frustration, and worry.  Decisions about what house to buy, what career to choose, or what partner is right for us.  These are the decisions we talk to our friends, parents, spouses, and co-workers about in order to ensure we are making the right decision and yet, even with the advice from so many people, we still question some of our choices.  steve_jobs_quotes

I guess you could say many of us believe that someone else knows more about us than we do.  Maybe they are more experienced, more educated, more successful, etc., and in our eyes, they know what is best for us.  The problem with always consulting someone else on major life decisions, we lose our sense of power and freedom.  When we believe someone else knows what is best for us more than we do, we are giving away our power to someone else and in turn can lose our confidence to make choices in the future.

How many of us made a choice for our careers based on someone else’s advice.  Maybe we thought that a certain field would be more profitable or we would be more successful in it, yet we always knew it wasn’t the best place for us.

The truth is some of us (me included) have been taught to believe that there is a right and a wrong decision in life, but there isn’t.  There are simply choices that will lead you down one path or another (or many).  There is no formula that you can use to determine which is right and which is wrong because it is different for every person. 

Bummer huh?

So, how do you know what is the right career path, product, partner, business decision, etc. for you?

The best way is to listen to your intuition.  You know that feeling in your gut that causes you to pick up the phone to call someone just as they were going to call you for something.  That’s the one.  It is also what I call leading with your inspiration.

When you follow the same principles for the big decisions as you do for the little ones, you learn to trust your intuition.  Did you consult with all of your friends and family members before you selected your breakfast this morning?  Probably not.  You most likely followed your intuition or inspiration for what you wanted to eat.

The same goes for making any other decision in life.  Sure, some of the bigger decisions may require some research etc., but if you can quiet your mind and get in touch with what you are feeling, you will be able to feel for the best decision for you.

In my coaching, I work with my clients to help them get more in tune with their inspiration.  I encourage them to follow what feels good to them and to listen to their internal compass (their emotions) to decide what is right for them. As they follow their intuition and lead with their inspiration, amazing opportunities and big shifts happen in what we are working on.

Are you interested in learning how to trust your intuition and follow your inspiration to finally live the life of your dreams? What to know more about how I can help you?  Visit my services page to see how I can help you make major moves toward your dreams.  What are you waiting for?  Send me an email at lamisha@lifeoncedreamt.com to schedule a FREE coaching call.

 

Being Ok With Things Unfinished

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With the holidays lurking just around the corner, I feel like there is so much to do and not enough time to complete everything.  In the last few weeks, I have felt like I am playing a lot of catch-up on work stuff, personal stuff, and holiday stuff.  When I begin to feel like things are unfinished, I have to just….breathe.

I am one of those people who enjoys being busy, but only when I am actually getting things accomplished.  I love looking at my to do list and seeing that it is DONE.  Very rarely do I actually accomplish everything on my list, so I often find myself in a constant state of things unfinished, but it doesn’t stop great feeling of putting a check mark next to the things that are complete.

In this process of lists, intentions, and often frustrating circumstances of many, (many) things being undone, I am learning that I can’t do it all, all of the time.  The reality is that I can’t do everything that I want to be done in one day, and very rarely can I get it all done in a week.  Life happens and with a 2-year old, two homes, two dogs, a full-time job, and my midnight hustle (a fun way to say my freelance writing work), life happens A LOT!  So, I may never get it all done, and sometimes I might have to say no to a couple of things for my sanity, but I am learning (yay!), that it is ok.

You don’t get an extra reward for rushing through life doing, doing, doing, you get the most out of life from simply being. So as I venture into my evening with a crippling list of to-do’s, I’m going to intentionally let some things go, because I would much rather indulge in a little bit of down-time, than stress about what I can’t get done.

What is left unfinished in your world that you are ok with, if even for the moment?

Gratitude: Life and Love

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This week has been a bit hairy.  Work routines were thrown out the window when we found out the owner and CEO of our company had passed away.  Unlike many companies in which you may not ever really know the CEO, let alone ever meet him or her, our CEO was very hands on.  He made frequent visits to the different locations and trainings and was very vocal about his dream for what we could become both at an individual level, and as a company.  So when I heard of his passing, though I had only met him in person a handful of times, I was saddened.  Out of respect for the passing of the CEO of our company, we shut down all locations at noon on Monday, and closed entirely today to allow reflection and remembrance for a well-respected visionary.

 

This week I was reminded of how quickly life can be taken from us and I am very grateful for the life I have been given.  Each day I wake up is another opportunity to experience all the beauty and adventure of life in any way I choose.  And while I firmly believe in the idea of living each day to the fullest, with a job, family, and all the other chaos of life, it can be difficult to truly embody that way of living each and everyday.  None the less, I am so grateful for my life and everything it entails, including the challenges.  I am given an opportunity each and every day to choose happiness in spite of whatever else is going on, and what a gift that is.  In fact we all have that opportunity, and happiness is ours if we so choose, no matter what other challenges we may face.  So today and everyday I am so very grateful for life.

I am also so very grateful for love.  The love I can give to others, and the love I receive from friends and family.  Love in my opinion is just as important as the life we live, and if we are able to open our hearts and give love to all despite our differences, then we have truly evolved into the spiritual beings we came here to be.  I never want a day to go by when I don’t tell those that are close to me I love them.  Love is what life is all about.  Loving our self, our friends, families, neighbors, pets, and everything else that makes up our wonderful world.  I am reminded of the importance of love this week with the passing of our CEO and vow to never take love for granted, no matter the circumstance.

I invite you reflect on your life and remember what a gift it is today and tell someone you love them.  Love is far more important than anything else in the world.  In my opinion anyways.

Have a great weekend everyone!