I have often mentioned that I am a recovering “do-er”, meaning I far too often attempt to use action to make things happen instead of allowing them to happen naturally. I guess it stems from the mentality that “if you want something done, you gotta do it yourself”, however time and time again I have learned that isn’t always true. Sometimes the missing pieces fill in perfectly when I give my project the breathing room it needs. The missing piece may come in the form of a quiet thought while I am focused on something else, or it comes from someone else entirely. Either way I am learning that I don’t always have to make things happen and that goes for the details of my dreams as well.
Have you ever woken up from a dream with a knowing of what happened, but the details are fuzzy? You can feel what happened and in some cases you can see the big picture but can’t quite make out the details. That’s how it can feel when you are inspired to achieve your life dreams. Often we find ourselves very aware of the big picture. We know what we want in the end. We can see it in our minds and feel the deliciousness in our soul, but the details that lead to that big picture are fuzzy. Some are even invisible.
I am in that space in regards to my coaching business. I can visualize the end result and the many services and goodies I want to offer my clients, yet many of the details have yet to fill in. I even found myself moving into “do-er” mode last night while trying to research some of the details. Not only was the action not inspired action, but it just felt forced. I realized I was forcing the details to fill in and based on my previous experience, forcing them is never a good idea. Sure it might get done, but it won’t be without some unnecessary headaches and frustration. Remembering that, I stopped in my tracks and let it go.
Or so I thought.
This morning I couldn’t shake the feeling that I should be doing something in regards to some of the details. See, my old thought processes are kicking into gear and becoming impatient with my progress. The deeper part of me knows that all is well and things are moving along beautifully, however the “do-er” is pulling her hair out. She would ask a million questions about “how”, “when”, and “who” if I let her, however I have done a pretty good job of keeping those thoughts at bay. I know my dream is coming together perfectly and that the details will fill in accordingly, but what about the “do-er”? I had to figure out a way to appease that part of me that wants to make lists and action steps and all that jazz. So, here’s what I did…
I made a list, but the list was not for me to worry about. It was a list to the Universe (insert God, Goddess, Energy, whatever tickles your fancy). On this list are some of the details the “do-er” can’t seem to let go of. Instead of worrying about them day in and day out, I am letting go of my control over them. I am accepting and trusting the fact that they will be handled appropriately and only when I am ready to deal with the details (through inspired action and inspirational nuggets), will I take control of them. Until then, they are out of my hands.
Think of it as delegating tasks. When the details begin to get overwhelming, delegate. I am choosing to keep the things on my “list”, that inspire, delight, and motivate me to continually make progress. The Universe can handle the rest. And when the time is right, I trust that the details my “do-er” has been stressing about, will fill in beautifully and all will be well.
Far too often we allow the details to overwhelm our excitement and passion for our dreams. We allow reality as we see it to limit our beliefs and thinking in such a way that it stalls our forward movement. But, what if instead of worrying about the “how”, we allow it to be revealed to us in perfect timing? That isn’t to say we get lazy with our dreams, it simply means to keep the vision and motivation alive while not getting bogged down with the idea that we have to figure it all out right this moment. The truth is we don’t. All will be revealed in perfect timing.
The vision you hold and the good feelings that stem from your dreams will lead you effortlessly to the “how”. You just have to have a little faith and delegate the details to the Universe to figure out.