A few weeks ago on my Facebook page, I asked my community to post a GIF that illustrates how they feel about the past week and let me tell you, there are a LOT of people who feel a bit like everything is falling apart.
If you have felt like this over the last few weeks 1) you are not alone, 2) this message is for you.
I don’t have to tell you that life isn’t always rainbows and unicorns. I think we have all lived long enough to know that there are times (sometimes days, weeks, and months) where life takes a turn and it seems like everything is crashing down around us. And because I have been there many, Many, MANY times before I want to share with you a few tips and things to remember if/when you are in this space.
Here are my top tips for when life looks and feels like a dumpster fire…
1. Honor how you feel. When life feels out of control there are often loads of feelings that come along with it. You might feel like you’re failing, not good enough, broken, confused, or just down right sad that things unfolding the way they are. Honor those feelings and give yourself some time to process them…BUT (and it’s a big one), don’t stay stuck there.
Also know that feelings often come in cycles so you may cycle back through the emotions every now and again. It’s all good. (Journaling, EFT, forgiveness, or some good old self-care are all good options to process through the emotions.)
2. Get back to neutral. One of the things I see people struggle with a lot is trying to jump from a really difficult situation to living in the land of rainbows and unicorns. That kind of leap is just too hard to make which is why I suggest trying to get to neutral first.
Do something that will shift your focus away from fixing, analyzing, or worrying about your current situation. For me that is usually some random project around the house like cleaning out a closet, the garage, or laundry. Taking a nap, working out, or listening to music is helpful as well. The key is to shift your attention to something, anything that will take your mind off your worries. Sounds crazy simple, but it works.
3. Expect things to change for the better. When things are falling apart and they have been for awhile it can be easy to assume things are always going to be that way. After so many disappointments it’s easy to give up hope that things will improve, but it’s imperative that you start expecting things to get better even before they do.
Your belief is the catalyst that starts allowing things to transform and change. Remember, you aren’t responsible for ‘how’ it will get better, you just have to trust that it will. Change begins with your belief.
4. Look beyond what you see. While it may seem like things are falling apart before your very eyes, remember that we can’t always see what is going on behind the energetic veil. The very reason you are going through the current struggle is because you are up-leveling your life in some way.
When you know that, you not only can shift your thinking much faster, but you begin to look beyond the “reality” in front of you and start focusing on what you choose to believe. Envision the abundance, healing, solutions, support, love, compassion etc. that you are seeking and let that be your focus.
5. Look for signs. One of the things I learned at a time when I was completely broke (and ready to throw in the towel with this business thing) was to look for the signs that things were looking up. Everyday I went on a scavenger hunt to find signs that showed me what I desired was on the way to me. Sometimes I found pennies on the ground, received a cup of free coffee, or heard an inspiring song on the radio. But with each new sign, I felt like things were looking up and soon I started seeing the actual changes and manifestations I wanted.
The last thing I would add to this is of course to DOUBLE DOWN on your MINDSET work. The stuff works when you work it, so make sure you are working it!
Here’s what I know about times like this…
They are setting you up for something much bigger than you ever imagined and the falling apart phase doesn’t last. Trust me, I’ve seen many of them!
Here’s what I know about YOU…
You are meant for more and this is not where your story ends. You have the power to be, have, and do whatever you choose and this moment is simply a bump in the road that will help you build the momentum you need for where you are going.
Never forget the magic and wonder you have within…ever.
And if for some reason you have forgotten just how incredible you are and you want some support, hit the link below and let’s chat. It’s time to fix that.
Remember, everything can and will change in an instant, the moment you shift your thoughts. <3